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#61
thepedagogue

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Oh god Frank
It’s not just a garage there’s farm buildings filled with all sorts so there’s no shortage of memorabilia

Me and my brother look at everything and scratch our heads and think where to start!

Those can be done in time though
We’ve almost got everything done that needs doing first and foremost

For many reasons this is always going to be a monumental task. Good that you have a brother with whom you can share thoughts and ideas. Between you you're less likely to lose focus on the most important things.

 

Take as much time as you can, once complete it will not be able to be changed.


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So sorry to hear this mate!! Deepest condolence to you and your family.
Nothing really can make it feel any better for you mate!! My only advice would be not to bottle up your feelings and just let them out!!
As some of my fellow friends on here know, I lost my mum last year and this Saturday 25th will be the anniversary of her passing.
There is not a day goes by without me think of her, but it does get easier mate.
Time is a great healer.
I will be think of you and your family when i pay my respects on Saturday.
Best wishes Ashley
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wildrain

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So sorry for your loss mate
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I feel for you in these dark days, my wife lost her mum and day within a year in 2018 and their funerals were 364 days apart. We still miss them of course, but talking about them helps.


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Mr Angry

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On Monday was the funeral of my father
A huge 10 people attended (well 8 because the times got mixed up)

We had to stand outside and the service was no longer than 15 minutes, it seemed rushed. I can fully understand why as hearse after hearse followed.

We got home and as the sun came out the close family of my brother and his family and close cousins stood in the driveway and we were just silent it was a surreal moment as though we were thinking this hasnt actually happened

Then all the neighbours came out and lined the grass verges and small green in the centre (all keeping distance of course) they brought with them glasses and a bottle of wine for themselves
They all raised a glass and applauded for what seemed forever.

It was a beautiful and touching moment and nothing Id ever seen before
My dad would have been overwhelmed. He was a very quiet man and didnt socialise as such but he often spoke to all the neighbours

Me and my brother was asked to say something but we couldnt the words just wouldnt come out.

We brought back the flowers from the coffin and instead of leaving them in the house I decided to walk to each neighbour and asked them to take a rose each and they did. I thought it was a fitting gesture.

Id like to thank everyone on here too for all the thoughts and support you have all sent it means so much especially in these difficult times

I must stress though nobody came closer than the distancing rules and within half an hour all went back home
I sat in the garage by the RS soaking up the sun in the peacefulness of the day and consumed a few beers.

Hope to see you all soon and a massive thankyou from me and all the family
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RIP Andy's Dad.


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I can't imagine what you have gone through, we've just got to look forward to better times to come.
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PaulG

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Only just seen this. Jeez, can't imagine what it's been like. Losing your parents hurts like hell at the best of times.

 

Really sorry for your loss. :(


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thepedagogue

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So pleased for you that some representation at the funeral was possible. The gesture from neighbours must have been a great comfort, knowing that your Dad was so well thought of.

 

I do hope this will help over time.


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Tc248carl

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So glad you got to at least be at the crematorium. It is such a pants time.

Love to you and all your family.x
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Jas

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Andy mate so sorry for your loss i have only just seen this thread 


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Steveo1

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Truly heartbreaking Andy  






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